Mother Of Actor Nay Toe- Letter For Future Daughter-In-Law

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Nay Toe’s mother pens a personal letter to her future daughter-in-law, in which she calls herself as “Aree”, the Arakanese word for Mother-In-Law or Aunty. She gave a reason for writing this letter as her desire to discuss what was necessary regarding her son’s love life and future marriage.

Nay Toe

Somehow, she has utmost faith that the girl her son chooses to marry will not be someone atrocious or unsuitable. Because her son is not what one could call a young, naïve boy anymore; his age is advancing, in fact. However, she stresses that he should not make his choice based on love alone. He also has to put into consideration the girl’s personality and attitude and her behavior before he makes the choice. There must also be a lot of understanding. She must also be a girl just like her “Aree”, who can fulfill his every need in such a way that he would have nothing lacking. Currently, she herself is fulfilling the role of a woman who is doing everything for Nay Toe till he should want for nothing. She is aware that some people do talk about her, and not always in a positive light. There are some who assume that she is very scared that her son is going to find a wife, and therefore she is doing all she could for him even though he is a grown man because she doesn’t want him to feel the need to have a wife. But now she denies that this is her reason for doing all these things for her son. She stresses that if she doesn’t do what she does for him, things will not go smoothly in his life like now, including his work. After all, she has acknowledged that when sons come of age, there will naturally be a time when they get married and settle down with their wives of choice. Therefore, she also hopes that his beloved future wife would also regard her as her own mother, just as she had considered her in-laws to be her own parents when she married Nay Toe’s father.
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There is really no reason for a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not to get along. If both do their duties as they are supposed to do, she trusts that there is nothing to have conflicts about. She does not believe in holding grudges and having unresolved issues with each other either. If there was something like that, she believes in having face-to-face discussions to clear it without any middle persons or go-betweens. Then, there should be no unresolved issues. As for the girl that Nay Toe may marry in the future, she has a belief that she will definitely be a delicate and polite kind of girl. She states that the society already knows very well how her entire family lives and carries on with their lives. They are basically an easy-going family. They do not like to stress or worry much over anything. Her son is also a very calm and quiet type of person. That is why she thinks only a girl who can give him full understanding can be the best life partner for him. This is her sincere statement as a mother. And her future daughter-in-law must be able to instinctively tell whatever her son may need.

Nay Toe
Nay Toe

Nay Toe

Nay Toe

In fact, it is best if the girl he marries is someone like herself. She says the whole family also wants a girl like that. However, she does acknowledge that rarely for people in the world do things happen exactly the way they want them to be. The wish and reality hardly come together so seamlessly. Fate and circumstance also play big roles in life, don’t they? However, as a mother, she does feel she needs to speak out about her son’s preferences and habits. She thinks youth nowadays are easy to talk to and easily understanding. She still maintains that she wants a daughter-in-law who is just like herself. She again stresses that she treated her mother-in-law in the same way as she did her own mother. Her own mother-in-law had died in her care. She put her up in the same place as her own mother. Her mother-in-law had loved her very much too when she was alive. Even nowadays, she only sleeps after paying homage to her mother-in-law in her mind. She also credits her mother-in-law’s teachings for her family being able to come to and live this kind of life. Everything that she did, she only used to do after discussing with her mother-in-law. If her mother-in-law forbid, she would never do that thing. Her mother-in-law also helped her a lot in her work, enabling their business to flourish. Now, she says she already considers the girl her son would marry as her own daughter too.

Nay Toe

Nay Toe

She says she has never told her son what kind of girl he has to marry. Back in her time also, she had chosen out of her own free will the person that she wanted to marry. The most important thing is then when the two people come together and start building their life together, they must fit with each other’s needs. Whatever it may be, she would want her daughter-in-law to be someone who understands her son’s needs and helps him in whatever aspect that he may need. Only then, will her son also be able to continue the acting work that he loves peacefully without any hassles. Since her son is also a very calm and quiet person, she considers whoever has the chance to become his life partner to be a very lucky girl. She ends the letter with a heartfelt wish that her son will also become a loving family man who has the chance of a very happy family life while continuing to perform his art for the society.
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